Coming out story
Firstly lemme start by saying Happy Pride to all you fellow Queers!!! While the journey to self acceptance is a rocky road, coming out is a whole other ball game itself. You may have to deal with a lot of Karen’s along the way.
Having to come out is more a daily thing as there is no just one day where it is a done and dusted deal! As queers we constantly have to come out to family, friends, colleagues and anyone who we come across which to me is kinda sorta ridiculous…While I was one of the lucky ones who was blessed to have a very open minded family to accepting me for who I am, they did have their doubts whether it was just a “phase” & didn’t really wanted me to tell a lot of friends cause I might change my mind down the line. Nevertheless the fam never asked me to change and has nothing but mad love for me and my partner. However the real challenge for me was the roller coaster of emotions prior to coming out which was really a mind twister. There was countless nights where I would practice with my partner who I have to give a huge shout out for being a pillar of strength for when I came out to my fam. I’d practice on how I would actually say it to them and what are the proper words to say to not get banished. Ultimately you realize there is no proper way to break it apart from just saying the words as it is. It was quite emotional and the build up was real.
Although my story with my family was different than I expected I have personally seen how peeps in the community get more toxic reactions from their family than Kanye West on Kim K. To them I salute y’all for your strength and with time things will get better. Family reputation plays a role when it comes to family acceptance cause god forbid Aunty Karen goes and breaks this news to someone in need of some attention. Sigh!
When I broke the “big news” to my closest best friend who I jokingly call my wife, it was abit of a challenge for her to accept it at first, she is now one of my most supportive ally’s.
STIGMA!!! This in my eyes is why people tend to show hate on us Queers even though we are the most awesomest creatures to walk this planet. This caaarraaazzyy world where people loving who they love is a bigger crime than people blatantly committing murders. My advise to anyone who wishes to come out of the closet would be to always with family it is important you are mentally and financially stable to face whatever the circumstances may come your way! Your mental peace should be Numero Uno! I have never been happier and comfortable in my own skin. Before this it felt like I was in the movie inception. Have a good circle of ally’s who you would support you through the fires of hell if it ever leads to that even it’s just a one person! And finally people come and go but staying true to yourself will always keep you in a happier mind set than trying to chuck it away! No matter who you say it or don’t say it to; your happiness is your number one priority!
-Your friendly neighborhood vamps
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