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VOICELESS Part 4: Sexually Violated for Liking Sex

I was 16 and I wanted to kill myself. I had no friends, no one who would understand why I would send a naked photo of myself to anyone.

VOICELESS Part 3: Innocence Exploited

He tells me not to tell anyone about the game we played, while he pulls his pants back up and buckles his belt.

VOICELESS Part 2: An Account of a Victim

It is not because girls don’t want to lose control, it’s because, we can’t for safety reasons, we have to constantly be vigilant even with people you trust.

VOICELESS Part 1: The Diary of a Rape

(WARNING: The following content includes graphic scenes and profanity) I was raped two years ago. It was December 2017 and I was coming out of a bad year. My friends were all I had. Until one of them drugged and raped me. I am writing this just one week after I said the words IContinue reading “VOICELESS Part 1: The Diary of a Rape”

WOMAN OF STEEL

CELEBRATING THE FIRST WOMAN TO RELEASE A HEAVY METAL ALBUM IN SRI LANKA “They’d see us and they’d be like: you know, you guys are pretty good for girls” ANNE WILSON, HEART When the Wilson-sister lead HEART were inducted into the Rock & Roll Hall of Fame in 2013, the late Chris Cornell reminded usContinue reading “WOMAN OF STEEL”

Dear Society

Dear Society, I am writing this letter to you because naming specific people is time consuming and pointless. You love to generalise, so let me extend to you the same courtesy. Let me plant questions that make you ponder, resulting in minds that wander. You suck. No, you really do. Of course I am awareContinue reading “Dear Society”

TOURIST RAPED BY LANKAN POLITICIAN

A Complete Victim Testimony: Rape. Sexual Assault. Consent. Words that are abuzz in international media since the #MeToo movement enabled a higher rate of reporting against sexual crimes. One thing we should take note of is that while we have empowered women to stand up against these crimes, we have not yet reexamined our ownContinue reading “TOURIST RAPED BY LANKAN POLITICIAN”

HEAVY METAL HOMOS

A PRIDE 2019 story from Bendr By the time I had got around to loving women, I had already fallen for heavy metal. Maybe on some level I always knew, but a Catholic schoolgirl upbringing can get in the way of who you really are sometimes. If the music hadn’t found me, I would stillContinue reading “HEAVY METAL HOMOS”

FEMINISM vs. MÖTLEY CRÜE

We mistakenly attribute the birth of rock n roll to the late Chuck Berry.

unFAIR

Drunk man at wedding: “Do you want a pill to be fair?”
Random Aunt: “She’s really dark, but pretty no?”
My Mother: “Don’t go to the beach, you will get dark.”
Friend: “You are so black”